Despite our best efforts as parents, our children can easily be at-risk of drug use. In this complex world there are many influences on young people from many different sources and external pressures are unprecedented.Many parents say, “not my son” or “not my daughter” and yet too many youth say “my parents have no idea that I am using drugs”. This is just one reason that talking to your children about illicit drugs and opening dialogue is so important. It is not safe to assume that your child is protected by socio-economic status, where they live or their background.
As a parent, you can be prepared to talk to your children about drugs. It is important to talk about everything from marijuana to potentially lethal drugs like fentanyl or ‘W18’, one the of the latest illicit drugs to hit the streets.
Here are ten tips for talking to your kids about substance use from the Centre for Addiction and Mental Health:
- Inform your teen you have something you’d like to discuss with them. Ask your teen where and when they would like to have this discussion.
- Approach the conversation with a sense of curiosity and interest, rather than accusation and fear. Remember that some experimentation is normal – you and your teen need to discuss what that means and where to draw the line.
- Know the facts of the drug(s) you plan to discuss BEFORE talking with your teen.
- Try to avoid providing your teen with “fact sheets” from organizations with a biased agenda. Instead, use impartial literature, approved by youth addiction workers, to gather your facts.
- Ask your teen about THEIR concerns regarding drugs and alcohol. Discuss and address those issues. Let your child know that they can be open and honest with you and let them know that you have their safety in mind – “My #1 concern is your safety – that means I need to know where you are and who you’re with.”
- Take the time to understand and address your greatest fears regarding your child. Discuss these with a friend, partner or therapist. Try not to let irrational fears create undue anxiety while talking with your teen.
- Honesty (about what you know and don’t know), courage (about having the discussion in the first place) and faith (that your child will make mistakes, but with a loving and supportive family, will turn out all right) is the spirit in which you want to engage your teen.
- Think very carefully before rifling through your child’s journals, emails, etc., searching for clues of substance use. The potential gains, in most cases, are far outweighed by the potential damage it would do to your relationship with your teen.
- Make your position clear when it comes to substances like alcohol, tobacco, and other drugs. Don’t assume that you child knows where you stand.
- At times, having this discussion with a qualified youth and/or addiction therapist can be very helpful. If your teen isn’t interested, you may still benefit in meeting with a youth therapist for support and suggestions.
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Ideally, you’ve been having these discussions for years before your child reaches adolescence, but it’s never too late to start talking about drugs.
- BC Ministry of Health, Office of the Provincial Health Officer
- Fraser Health
- Canadian Centre on Substance AbuseThe Canadian Centre on Substance Abuse changes lives by bringing people and knowledge together to reduce the harm of alcohol and other drugs on society.
- HereToHelpHeretoHelp is a project of the BC Partners for Mental Health and Addictions Information and works to help people live well and better prevent and manage mental health and substance use problems.